IN THE Philippines, where Christianity is predominant, talking about sex is not only considered inappropriate, it is also sinful.
And yet the Philippines topped for having the most time spent on Pornhub in 2023 and just behind the United States in terms of traffic, according to the adult entertainment site.
UNICEF also reported that the Philippines has become a top global source of child pornography with around 80 percent of Filipino children at risk of online sexual abuse.
The surge of teen pregnancy in the country has been so pervasive that the National Economic and Development Authority (NEDA) has declared it to be a “National Social Emergency” in 2019.
Save the Children reported that the Philippines has one the highest adolescent birth rates in Asia partly due to social and cultural pressures, poverty, limited sex education, and restricted access to contraceptives.
Health agencies also reported an alarming rise in HIV infections in the Philippines, recording a 543 percent increase between 2010 and 2023.
Health Secretary Teodoro Herbosa reported that an average of 55 individuals are being diagnosed with HIV in the country every day and the “very scary part” is that many young people, as early as 15 years old, are being diagnosed with HIV infection.
A study by the University of the Philippines Population Institute (UPPI) revealed that only a third of Filipino youth aged 15 to 24 have an awareness of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and emergency contraceptive (EC) pills.
The same study also reported that sex remains a taboo topic at home among Filipinos.
Perhaps, it is time to admit to ourselves that our strategy of “just say no” to sex has not been working with our children the same way just saying no to drugs has been an epic fail.
Filipinos need to talk about sex seriously and intelligently and collectively decide how to effectively respond to this “social emergency” affecting our young people instead of framing every discussion through a religious lens.
It is primarily a public health issue, not a religious one. Religious norms should not dictate policy in a democracy, especially in a country that claims to subscribe to the separation of church and state. Religion and culture may influence our laws, but they should not be the primary basis for them. After all, Philippine society today is multicultural and multi-faith.
There is nothing inherently wrong with talking about sex or having sex. It often becomes stigmatized due to cultural and religious influences. Open, respectful conversations about sex can lead to numerous benefits like better education, healthier relationships, and reduced stigma.
Talking about sex is taboo in our society because of religious teachings, social control, and cultural norms.
Strong moral codes in many religions emphasize the sanctity of sex, often limiting it to marriage and discouraging open discussion. Ideas about modesty, privacy, and “proper” behavior also contribute to the perception of sex as private or shameful.
Making sex a taboo topic is also a means of social control. Regulating sexuality has historically been a way for societies to maintain order and control inheritance, enforce gender roles, and perpetuate unequal power structures.
Education is better than ignorance. I think we can all agree on that. So why this overreaction when it comes to sex education? Because of the “sex” in “education,” of course.
But sex is a natural and essential part of human life. It is rooted in biology, psychology, and social connections. It plays a critical role in reproduction, bonding, and overall well-being. Despite societal attitudes that often frame it as taboo or shameful, it does not change the fundamental truth that sex is a normal and important part of being human.
We need to view sex as a natural thing in this country to help normalize discussions about sexual health, relationships, and consent. It will also promote health and encourage individuals to seek accurate information and engage in safe practices. Removing the stigma on sex enhances relationships because understanding and embracing sexuality can lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Open communication about sex and human sexuality fosters trust, mutual respect, and understanding between partners. Honest discussions help dispel myths and provide accurate information that will lead to informed decisions instead of just relying on peers or the internet.
Some people think that talking about sex, especially with young people, might encourage premature sexual activity. However, research indicates that comprehensive sex education often delays sexual initiation by equipping individuals with a better understanding of the consequences.
Educated individuals are more likely to practice safe sex and avoid risky behaviors. They also learn how to address diverse needs, fostering respect and inclusivity. Being educated also breaks down stereotypes, challenges traditional gender roles, and promotes equality in relationships.
On the other hand, inadequate sex education perpetuates the cycle of silence and misunderstanding, which leads to harm and irresponsible or abusive behaviors.
Comprehensive sex education is a good thing when done well and right. Any policy we create about this should support parental and community engagement and create opportunities for dialogue between parents, children, educators, and all stakeholders — building trust and understanding. As that famous African proverb said, “It takes a village to raise a child.”
Our sex education program must educate individuals to contribute to healthier communities by reducing rates of teen pregnancies, STIs, and relationship violence. It must emphasize holistic health including discussions on nutrition, mental health, and lifestyle factors that influence sexual and reproductive well-being.
When implemented effectively, sex education empowers people to make informed decisions, build respectful relationships, and lead healthier lives.
