Anita’s story, a poignant narrative of self-sacrifice ending in tragedy, serves as a stark reminder of the often-invisible burdens borne by women. This truth resonated deeply during the annual conference of WE-Move, an organization of women journalists, where the focus centered on our health and health-seeking habits.
As a journalist now involved in women’s health and wellness, I’ve witnessed countless variations of Anita’s dilemma: the relentless prioritization of others, the crippling fear of being labeled selfish, and the devastating consequences of neglecting one’s own well-being.
Anita, the breadwinner, caregiver, and linchpin of her family, faced an impossible choice: her health or her family’s survival. In a society where women are disproportionately burdened with caregiving responsibilities, this choice is tragically common. It reflects a systemic failure to support those who shoulder the weight of familial and societal expectations.
The unspoken reality is that many women, like Anita, are conditioned to believe their needs are secondary. We are taught to prioritize the comfort and well-being of others, often at our own expense. This ingrained selflessness, though often lauded, is a dangerous trap, leading to burnout, chronic stress, and, as in Anita’s case, potentially fatal health consequences.
Patriarchy plays a significant role in perpetuating this cycle. Women who dare to prioritize their health and happiness are frequently labeled selfish, uncaring, or even unlovable. This social pressure creates a climate where self-care is not only discouraged but actively stigmatized. It is a cruel irony that those expected to nurture and care for others are denied the right to nurture and care for themselves.
This cultural narrative must change. We must dismantle the notion that self-care is a luxury, a frivolous indulgence reserved for the privileged. It is, in fact, a fundamental necessity, a radical act of survival, particularly for women disproportionately vulnerable to life-threatening diseases.
The statistics speak for themselves. Breast cancer, cervical cancer, and cardiovascular disease are among the leading causes of mortality in women. These diseases do not discriminate and are often exacerbated by chronic stress, limited access to healthcare, and the tendency to ignore early warning signs.
We must internalize and practice the understanding that self-care is not selfish; it is essential. It is about recognizing that women’s health and well-being are as valuable as those of the people they care for. It’s about breaking free from the societal expectation of perpetual self-sacrifice.
We need to cultivate a culture that supports and encourages women to prioritize their health. Anita’s story is a tragedy, but it need not be the norm. By embracing self-care as a fundamental right, we empower women to live healthier, happier, and more fulfilling lives. It is time for women to prioritize themselves. In doing so, they not only improve their own lives but also contribute to a more just and equitable society for all.
